Couples Counseling For Communication

For any couple who is saying, “We just need to work on our communication.”

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Located in Highland Meadows Parkway | Windsor, Colorado

We are built for connection, yet sometimes the
relationships in our lives create more chaos than joy.

“Communication difficulties” is the number one reason couples seek counseling.

How many times have you tried to start a conversation with your partner about your relationship (or dinner or vacation or in-laws or anything that impacts the two of you), only to have it escalate in a matter of seconds?

You approach these conversations the best way you know how (or maybe you came on a little strong, but feel totally justified in doing so), yet no matter how hard you try they just won’t listen.

You’re pissed, they’re pissed, and you both find yourself thinking:

“If they would just listen to what I’m saying they would see that I’m right.”

“We just rehash the same arguments over and over again and nothing ever gets solved.”

“I want things to be like they used to be. How did we get here?”

“I want us to be on the same team again.”

“We just need to find better ways to communicate.”

Despite feeling defeated, frustrated, and at the end of your rope, you are not alone if this is the picture of your relationship.

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Imagine being able to talk about hard things without getting into a fight where you both feel hurt and upset.

You can have a relationship with a person that you trust, where you both can feel heard and understood and work on finding solutions together.

In couples counseling, we take time to identify the patterns that are negatively impacting your communication and your relationship.

Once we understand the the points of communication that are breaking down, we can start implementing tools to help you navigate them with more success.

You learn about ways to start conversations that work, ways to respond so you’re both on the same page, and ways to have successful conversations.

You also get the benefit of having a licensed marriage and family therapist to help you have a conversation in real time that can end successfully.

Ultimately, we focus on getting you back to enjoying each other and your relationship again.

This is the start of the relationship you’ve been hoping for.

What Couples Counseling
Can Do

  • Help you figure out the contributing factors that are negatively impacting your relationship

  • Give you the opportunity to practice new ways of interacting and connecting

  • Show you ways to get to know yourself, your partner, and your relationship in a way you never have before

  • Help you determine whether or not to continue your relationship

  • Teach you different ways to communicate and hear each other in your relationship

What Couples Counseling Does Not Do

  • Blame one partner for all of the problems in your relationship

  • Fix your relationship on its own (real progress happens when both partners work outside of sessions, practicing new skills and making consistent efforts in daily life)

  • Force you to stay together

  • Make the decision about continuing or ending the relationship for you 

  • Treat you like every other couple. You, your stories, and your relationship is unique, so your couples counseling should be as well.

You have been working so hard to keep this relationship afloat.

Let couples counseling help you have the easy, loving, connected, and enjoyable relationship you deserve.

Are you ready to get started?

Frequently Asked Questions About
Couples Counseling

  • I’m a bit eclectic in nature, pulling ideas from various counseling modalities that will guide us in identifying the cause of your relationship concerns and give you tools specific to your communication needs.

    More specifically, I utilize person centered therapy (which means I look at you both as the experts in your life and relationship while I am your guide and source of support), the Gottman Method (this gives you specific tools to communicate more effectively and strengthen your relationship), and Emotionally Focused Therapy (this helps us track the pattern of communication happening and what attachment needs are contributing to your concerns. It also gives us a structure for healthy communication and connection within session.)

  • In our first couple of sessions we focus on helping you feel comfortable in counseling. We discuss what is bringing you in and what you’d like to get out of therapy. I’ll ask questions about your relationship regarding history, strengths, current concerns, how you solve problems, your pattern of communication, and what interactions typically look like between the two of you.

    Through answering these questions, we begin to identify your goals as a couple and the barriers that are getting in the way of you reaching them. We then focus on healing previous experiences that were hurtful between the two of you, finding tangible tools for communication that actually work for you, and helping you build healthier patterns of interacting with each other. You then go out into the real world and practice these tools, sharing about what does and doesn’t work so we can modify things in a way that best fits for you. You also get the experience of positive and healthy interactions that help you build trust and safety with each other.

  • A 20-minute phone consultation is free.

    The fee for a 50-minute session is $140.

    The fee for a 90-minute session is $280.

    If you would like to see if your sessions could be covered by your heath insurance provider, please reach out to them and ask about their "out of network coverage for mental health providers." I am happy to provide you with a superbill to submit to your provider.

  • Schedule your free phone consultation by clicking here.

    Once we complete a free phone consultation and decide that we are a good fit to work together, we will schedule a time and a date for our first session that is convenient for you. I offer both in-person and virtual sessions for your comfort.